by Michael Tomberlin
As the year comes to a close, the tradition of making your New
Year's Resolutions stares you in the face. It's a time for all of us
to look back at who we are and what we have done. It's a time
for us to look forward at who we want to be and what we want to
do and accomplish in our lives.
A New Year's Resolution is a commitment made by someone
trying to change a habit or part of their lifestyle. Usually it is
something that is meant to change life for the better or what is
perceived as better. With the coming of a new year, it is a
symbol of rebirth and a great time to make a positive change to
The concept of a New Year's Resolution has been around for
hundreds of years.
And for hundreds of years many of the annual
self-improvement plans are broken. Some resolutions are
never really started while others make it a few weeks or months
before being dropped to the wayside. Quite often it is the
difficulty of change and the comfort and ease of just keeping
things the same that causes us to fail at the resolutions we
make each year.
Many of us make one or more of the following "Top 10" yearly
1. Spend more time with family
2. Get fit
3. Lose weight
4. Quit Smoking
5. Enjoy life more
6. Quit Drinking
7. Get out of debt
8. Learn something new
9. Help others
10 .Get organized
Change no matter how good it might be is a hard thing to do.
Many of us live with bad habits and bad situations but because
it is easier to just keep going we never make the effort for real
The New Year and the chance for resolutions and change give
us all hope but most of us don't do what is required to make the
change. If you find yourself making one or more of these
resolutions each year only to see it never be accomplished,
here are a few helpful hints and tips to try and really make the
positive change you desire.
1. Write down your goals and resolutions - be detailed in what
you want to do and get. If you want to lose weight, how much.
Don't just say be skinnier, but say I want to lose 10 pounds or 1
pound every month.
2. Post your resolutions - Once you have them written down put
them somewhere you will see them every day. Hang it on the
mirror or above your desk. You have to keep reminding
yourself what you are trying to accomplish.
3. Find pictures or sayings that show you your final goal. If it
was to make more money, what were you going to do with it? If
it was to get that new car, find a picture of that car. If you
wanted to lose weight to buy that new dress, place the picture
of it next to your resolution. It's much easier to keep working if
you know there is a reward at the end.
4. Be realistic - Set a goal that you can actually achieve.
Becoming the starting quarterback for your favorite NFL team
might be a great goal and a lifelong dream but are you really in
the position to get there? Can you really lose 50 pounds this
year? Making small achievable goals allows you to have
success. Success breeds success! Once you are successful at
achieving a resolution, it will be that much easier to accomplish
5. Find a partner or group that has made the same or similar
resolution. Having someone to talk to and help keep you on
track is a HUGE bonus. It becomes easy to rationalize or quit
on ourselves, but if you have someone relying on you to be
there for them and help them succeed it will keep you on track
and going strong.
Achieving your goals and making resolutions that are
attainable is not an impossible job. Just follow a few simple
rules and you too can be having success making positive
change. And don't forget, it doesn't have to be January 1st in
order to make a change. Be open to possibilities and let
Don't dwell on the past or the future, as the wise Kung Fu
master once said, "The past is history, the future is a mystery
but today is a gift that is why they call it the present!"
One day at a time, one step at a time we can all succeed.
Think about it!