By Frank Weber
Copyright ©2024
For some folks, the Holidays are over at the end of Christmas Day.
For others, the Holidays end after dinner on New Year’s Day.
Still others take the Holidays well into the month of January.
But for a lot of people, the absolute end-all of the Holidays – and the most hopeful divination for a better new year – is the New Year’s Kiss.
I suppose it’s with good reason, too.
A kiss is a selfless gesture toward another person.
You’re offering your kiss to another so they can get up close and personal with you.You’re allowing them to enjoy you.
It’s an invitation for them to relish the touch and feel and taste of your lips and your face.
It’s an invitation for them to see who you are – you can’t hide the expression in your eyes after you kiss. There is always a slice of the kiss-after when both people can see into each other eyes…and most everything is laid bare in that sliver of the moment.Whether you want it to be shown or not, it’s there.
It’s a total and absolute abandon. And it can be selfless.
That makes the kiss a supremely intimate gesture. I really can’t think of anything more intimate than a deep kiss that smacks of a total sense of surrender.
And yes, I do see a kiss as more intimate than even sex can be. You can hide a lot during sex if you think about it. But when it comes to a kiss, you not only see what’s in their expression, you breathe the same air and you live the same moment together, eye to eye.
A kiss can be so much more personal.
There’s no way to pull out or pull away.
There’s no way you can kiss another person without seeing into them.
There’s no way you can just look away and not be seen.
It’s a total and absolute – and willing – surrender. And it can be both selfless and intimate.
Not to mention that a good kiss can scramble your brains so much so that it makes you dizzy enough to forget your name.
But it’s so easy to give in to the sweet intoxication of a deep and passionate kiss.
Tender skin of a cheek.
Gentle brushes of eye lashes on the face.
Plump and tender lips touching.
Curious and playful tongue flicking and licking.
Sharing the same breaths together.
Interestingly enough, even the most soul-bending of New Year’s Kisses don’t always lead to sex.
If you’re going to have sex on New Year’s Eve, that was already decided in one way or another, and the New Year’s Kiss is more of a formality.
No…It’s more about what it could mean as part of the new year. As exciting as that is, there is SO much pressure that goes with it. Think about it…
If that one kiss sends your soul into orbit, then it’s going to be a good year…and the astral-sexual-debauchery will certainly follow in the new year.
But if that one kiss falls short from the story book in any way – or they don’t get one – too many people are too quick to convince themselves that the new year is going to suck just as bad as the last one.
And all of that is based on one, simple kiss performed out of a holiday tradition.
It seems there’s more pressure put on that one, simple kiss than there is on losing your virginity!
But it doesn’t have to be that way. The whole next year doesn’t have to suck so bad.
Just don’t bet so heavily on that one kiss at midnight.
I’m not particularly fond of the whole New Year’s Resolution deal, but if you’re going to make one, maybe it should be, “If I get a kiss at midnight, I am going to enjoy that New Year’s Kiss and I will enjoy that moment for as long as it lasts.”
It’s honestly one resolution that is pretty easy to keep.
Don’t bother with any of that other nonsense – very little of it will ever happen, anyway.
But a kiss…a kiss brings an air of hope with it – good or bad kiss makes no difference – it’s always a sign of good things to come. It’s a sign of hope for something ‘new’ and something ‘more’. And if you’re lucky, mind-bending sex might just come along with it!
If it does lead to more, then you can ride that ecstatic, intimate sexual wave, but there’s no point in basing your whole next year on what might happen.
If it doesn’t take you anywhere, don’t let it ruin your outlook – just keep on looking.
Don’t put so much pressure and stress on yourself – or anyone else for that matter.
Enjoy the moment for what it gives you right then and there.
Just let things happen….and chances are, they will.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for yourself, and there’s nothing wrong with seeking out a kiss at midnight.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a romance to come out of it.
But…
Sometimes it will just be a kiss and it will mean very little to you.
Sometimes it will buckle your knees and take your breath away and it will mean a lot to you.
But never should it mean everything to everyone all the time.
Think back to your own ‘first kisses’ in life and what they gave you.
Remember how that first ever kiss and how it felt on your lips and what it did to your heart.
Remember how that first kiss from a close love felt inside and what it did to your soul.
Now remember that a New Year’s Kiss can be your next-best, first-ever, close-love, first kiss.
Kissing feels good, is good, brings good, means good, so kiss until you go numb and you’re drunk on the flavor of lips and a tongue licking at your own!
That is the absolute best way to end the Holiday Season!
About Frank Weber:
Frank Weber is a freelance writer from Erie, Pennsylvania. He has been published in several print and digital magazines, local interest books and advertising campaigns as both writer and model. His work encompasses a firm conviction, a simple honesty in written word and enough of a raw edge to make people feel what they read. Website: www.frankietatts.com
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